All posts filed under: motherhood

Vulnerability as the great equalizer

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motherhood / vulnerability

I am vulnerable but fighting it. Well, that’s not exactly true anymore. I am mostly embracing vulnerability. Since my engagement to Khalfani, I am doing things I never thought I would. I am reaching out, leaning in, stepping up and facing fears head on. I am honestly doing them with less fear in me because his encouragement, lack of judgement give me strength. I tell you, the Lord knows who he places us with. I […]

My first Mother’s Day

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family life / motherhood / sacrifice

I approached my ¬†first Mother’s day as to be expected… full of trepidation and anxiety. I felt somewhat fraudulent since I never gave birth to these children or anyone for that matter. I mean, they have a mother who birthed them. I just am here for the now. I am here in the flesh since their mom is not. I was so uncomfortable with the concept of celebration as it related to me, since I […]

Family moments for the win

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family life / motherhood / sacrifice

I’m trying something new. I am injecting more fun into our days to days, and I don’t mean on the weekends anymore. Good news is flowing everywhere, and a win for me is a win for the kids and my partner. WE are fighting the good fight together, and we are winning together! It is definitely a bit for me to get used to, this sharing thing. Sharing my plans, news, processes and steps with […]

Life has been so busy lately

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family life / graduate school / motherhood / the academy

So, first off lemme say a huge mea culpa. I have not updated my baby blog in thirteen days to be direct. That was not part of my agenda, but ya know, life happens. Life is happening. Boy, oh boy, it is. I recently got accepted to my top choice in graduate school – Teachers College at Columbia University. Can we just have a moment of reflection for the dopeness that is that? Like, Woah. […]

My social media shoutout

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family life / motherhood

Wow. That all fun weekend that I mentioned to you in my last post, it must have been a success. My 14 year old daughter was loading up the dishwasher and twirling, singing, dancing, ya know… the norm. Well, in that time somehow, she rather stealthily updated her Facebook to something like this: ‘feeling giddy, and (she shared a satire text blog) I wish my PARENTS would text me like this. with – (me & […]

Time out, time in

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family life / motherhood

Time out. It’s not a thing we do in our household, but I have been thinking of creative ways of managing and modifying the children’s behavior. There’s the no dessert route, the five minutes before bed to catch a show on Netflix route, and the no weekend playdate route. What I have been doing, along with my partner, is rewarding the children on an individual basis when they do as we expect them to. Rewards, […]

Managing all of the children

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family life / motherhood

With three children, aged 14, 11, and 9 – our home is not short of many moods. Most of the time, the children behave as they want to, not as we want to, but we are making progress. Our youngest, K is a sweetheart most of the time. He behaves, follows instructions and does well in school. The problem is that his older sisters are more often than not requiring most of our time and […]